Three Tips for Increasing Sexual Satisfaction

Want to know some simple tips for increasing your sexual satisfaction? Figure out what your partner likes (both in and out of the bedroom), make sex a priority, and make it about more than the physical act. Tip #1 Find out what your spouse's sexual needs are! Many...

Let’s Talk Sex! Do Couples Have a Responsibility for Singles?

Have you ever heard a really good sermon about sex? I mean the kind that makes you actually shout, “hallelujah,” “amen,” “praise Him all ye saints!” or whatever it is that you yell when the preacher does a particularly great job proclaiming the truth. I remember...

Three Things You’d Learn If You Went to a Sex Therapist

Let me start by saying I'm speaking from a Christian world-view. I can only speculate what you might learn if you just pick a random sex therapist to talk to. What I’m sharing here is what you would learn if you went to a Christian sex therapist. So, if you’ve...

Three Tips For An Even Happier Marriage

What’s better than being in a happy marriage? Having an even happier marriage! There’s some negative beliefs about marriage that even Christians can believe. In fact, when I was engaged to be married I heard plenty of tales of how we’re happy now but that our...

The Discomfort of Intimacy

I used to know this girl that had experienced some pretty bad relationships and some sexual abuse in her past. She worked hard to “work through” all of that. She was in therapy for a couple of years, journaled pretty consistently, spent more hours in prayer than could...

5 Ways to Make Your Marriage More Intimate

I’m a huge fan of marriage. When done well, marriage gives us lessons about God, his grace, and how to be more Christ-like. Not only that, it can be a lot of fun to travel this journey of life with another person. Here are five ways to do marriage well and feel more...

The Halo Effect In Marriage

**Warning, this is NOT a political post** Okay, maybe I would actually need a warning if it was a political post. I’m actually just using a political example as a starting point… I watched a video last night where supporters of a particular candidate were read...

My Book Review!

Last month I shared my reading list with you. Just thought I'd share my February list as well. I'm always up for hearing about any books you're reading. #1. The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion I admit that I don't take time to read novels all that often. This...

Waiting While You Wait – A Story of Infertility

Believe it or not, I used to be a band nerd. Yup...cute lil ol' me. Huge band nerd. And even though I'm small, I played the bass drum (which pretty much took up my entire body) and the snare drum. Okay...so that's not all that nerdy, but I played cymbals my first...

How to Make Marriage Counseling Work For You

You don’t have to look hard to find stories of couples who have gone through marriage counseling only to emerge with a relationship even worse then they had prior to the counseling. If you don’t know someone personally, Google has millions of blogs/articles for you to...

Hope When You’ve Fallen Out of Love

I've worked with many, many couples who say that the reason their marriage ended or is about to end is because they've "fallen out of love." They say something along the lines of, "You know...I still love him I'm just not in love" or "I want her to be happy, I just...

Valentine’s Day Doesn’t Define Your Marriage

I'm sitting here writing today on Valentine's Day and Communion Sunday. What a combination! I feel like I should be singing, "Can you feel the love tonight?" Can you hear Simba and Nala right now? A recent article in The Atlantic claims that Americans spend about 20...

The Soul Mate Myth

I recently read an article that talked about comedian, Aziz Ansari, and his thoughts on finding a soul mate. The article seemed to express some tentativeness with the subject. It starts out with Ansari stating that it is nearly impossible to find a soul mate. But,...

Help for The Wife With a High Sex Drive

Most people really believe that the man has the higher sex drive in the marriage. Actually though, somewhere between 1/3 and 1/2 of marriages have a wife with a higher sex drive. (As an aside, don't you love when statistics have such a large range? Obviously, we're...

I Wasn’t Pretty on my Wedding Day

Vulnerability is defined as "being open for injury." It doesn't mean that injury must occur, but simply that you are not trying to protect yourself from being hurt. If someone had told me, "you're going to feel vulnerable in marriage,"  I wouldn't have believed it....

Book Review Time!

I seriously love to read! Like, seriously! I have an app on my phone right now with 292 books that I plan on reading. I would maybe even eventually read all of those if I didn't keep adding more. It's a great feeling when I read a book I love and a bit of a let down...

Turning Toward Your Spouse for a Stronger Marriage

Have you ever heard of Karen Horney? She was a psychoanalyst that passed away in 1952, but her theories and the way she conceptualized relationships are still widely used today. Short history lesson: She disagreed with Freud and began teaching that men and women were...

When Your Spouse “Makes You Angry”

I was asked a couple of weeks ago to spend some time focusing on anger. In fact, angry feelings have been a recurring theme with the people that I work with for quite a while. I work primarily with couples and I've seen more than one person straight up walk out of...