Scripture gives us several examples of marriage, love, and what it means to be a Christ-like husband and wife. As we look through some of these verses together, consider any changes God is asking you to make and prayerfully ask him for his help.
1. Genesis 2:18
“The LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'”
The Hebrew word for “helper” is ezer kenegdo, which roughly translates to “helpmeet.” God created women to be support systems for their husbands-an equal half of a romantic union between two people.
2. Genesis 1:28
“God blessed them and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.'”
God commands Adam and Eve to bear offspring and take care of the earth and everything that He created. Likewise, husbands and wives of today are called to raise the next generation through parenting and role-modeling and to take care of His creation.
3. Ecclesiastes 4:9
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?”
Working together as a couple is always better than relying on only one’s strength and tenacity to get the job done. Each can bring their strengths forward to help support each other in their weak spots.
4. Isaiah 62:5
“As a young man marries a young woman, so will your Builder marry you; as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you.”
Isaiah uses the image of a groom seeing his bride in her wedding gown for the first time as a comparison to the excitement that God has over His people, the Church.
5. Proverbs 12:4
“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.”
Proverbs has many references to wives and husbands (some other examples are below). In this verse, the character of wives is highlighted as an important reflection of their husbands. If a wife has good character qualities, this will be reflected favorably for her husband.
6. Proverbs 31:10
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”
In this verse, wives’ good character is considered valuable, more so than a precious stone.
7. Proverbs 18:22
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
A husband should not only seek a wife with good character qualities because it is a good reflection on him, he should also do so because God will bless him.
8. Proverbs 30:18-19
“There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand: the way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a snake on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a young woman.”
If it is difficult to understand the love husbands and wives have for each other, it’s ok! In these verses, the romantic love men have for their wives is considered one of the mysteries of God’s creation.
9. Song of Solomon 8:7
“Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If one were to give all the wealth of one’s house for love, it would be utterly scorned.”
Love between husbands and wives can not be bought. Love is something more powerful and valuable to share with each other than all the money in the world.
10. 1 Peter 3:7
“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”
Now, calling wives “the weaker partner” is difficult to read. But, if you look closer at the verse, it is saying that husbands and wives should be respected because they are all children of God. This is so important to God, that the Bible cautions husbands that their prayers may be affected if they don’t respect their wives as children of God.
11. Colossians 3:18-19
“Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”
This verse describes the roles God calls wives and husbands to fulfill. The word “submit” in this context is considered to be on the basis of a loving relationship between husband and wife and is compared to Christians submitting to the Lord on the basis of a loving relationship with God. Husbands are also called to be careful how they interact with their wives and to love them.
Ephesians 5:22-33 is a passage that is often cited as a model for how being a Christian husband and wife should be. Let’s break down these verses, starting with what God says about wives.
12. Ephesians 5:22-24
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
The model that wives are called to follow in their relationships with their husbands is the church’s relationship with Christ. Like in the discussion about Colossians 3:18-19 passage, the basis of wives’ submitting to their husbands is in a great love comparable to Christ’s love for the church.
13. Ephesians 5:25-30
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body.”
In this passage, husbands are called to model their relationship with their wives as Christ’s sacrifice and love for the church. Wives are considered a part of themselves and should therefore be appreciated.
14. Ephesians 5:31-33
“’For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
The passage concludes with the imagery of husbands becoming one with their wives in the marriage covenant and a synopsis of how husbands should love their wives and how wives should respect their husbands.
As we get closer to Valentine’s Day and focus more on the idea of love, let’s also turn our focus to what it means to be a Godly husband or wife.